When we did this session, Nick was one week away from telling his children that he was going to transition to a man. When we began emailing each other, I had a feeling that might be the case. I had a feeling because I have watched my brother transition over the last two years, and they reminded me of each other. My youngest sibling is now a man named Anthony. We call him AJ. (This is a story for another blog post. We did a series of photos that have to be shared, but the right words need to come.) ….So, I had this feeling but didn’t say anything. A week before our session, Nick emailed to tell me, and my heart opened up so big and wide for all seven of them. I wrote back and shared my experience with AJ, and it was just one of those amazing and wild coincidences and connections that makes you so happy that it happened to you. It was just right for us to meet and work together.

Nick and Anna are like, in love. In love in the way that anyone can see it. And the love they share spills over onto their blended family. The children are so lucky and picked me up into their chaos and acceptance and made me laugh for two hours.

I felt protective of these images and these people and so I have kept them to myself. But it’s time to share them. Trans people need to see trans people, AND SO DOES EVERYONE ELSE! You are not alone. You are everywhere and I LOVE IT. You have my support and the support of my immediate and extended family. If anyone out there needs someone to talk to, or any of you know someone that needs someone to talk to, please reach out to me, I can connect you/them to good people.

(I’ll put links to both Nick and Anna’s blogs, which share their stories in more detail, at the bottom of the post. It’s a beautiful story, how they came together.)

PS – Nick and AJ recently met in person, after I connected them via Instagram. How cool is that?



Nick’s blog here
Nick’s Instagram here

Anna’s blog here
Anna’s Instagram here

PPS Something I just saw on Anna’s blog and wanted to share here as well:

‘Here are five things that some people might not know regarding how to talk to someone who’s trans. As a PSA, I share these with you, because none of us know what we don’t know until we know it.

1. It is perfectly polite to ask someone what pronouns they prefer.

2. It is never acceptable to ask someone about their private parts. This is true for everyone, though, not just trans people. Just like it’s not ok to touch a pregnant woman’s belly without her consent, politeness is still politeness no matter what someone is doing with their identity.

3. Anything that happens in a doctor’s office is also something that is no one else’s business. How would you feel if you were asked loudly in public about your prostate meds or your diflucan or viagra prescription? Manners.

4. By the time someone is ready to tell the world that they are transitioning, it is safe to assume that they have already pondered, researched, and agonized about their decision. They have certainly talked to a psychologist and a medical doctor at a bare minimum, and probably sought all sorts of wise counsel over a course of months or years. They have, without a doubt, considered deeply and with great angst the way it will influence the lives of those they love. Therefore to ask if they’re sure, or if they’ve thought about how it might affect their children, is unhelpful and insulting. (Unless of course they have a history of cooking meth or making other rash and impulsive decisions that endanger their loved ones.) Otherwise, assume the best.

5. The bathroom is the most terrifying place in the world for someone who is trans. This is a place where you can be an advocate, a champion, where you have the chance to be human kindness in action. If someone looks out of place in a bathroom, you might smile kindly at them. You can assume that only the most dire of physical needs and the most unfortunate of circumstances would force someone to go pee in a place where they will likely encounter cold looks, rude words, and worse. You can make a safe place with your energy and your presence. Out in the larger world, you can champion gender-neutral bathrooms everywhere, ones equipped with handicap access and changing tables while we’re at it. You might step up and educate the poor security guard who has gotten called to haul some poor mortified soul out of the place where they do their most private business. And you can accompany your trans or androgynous friend to the bathroom without being asked so that you can be their backup and their safety should that be necessary.’

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  1. I think I read an interview with these guys on Yes and Yes? The fierce love in this family is inspiring and beautiful – I hope that everyone is lucky enough to find that some day. Also: bedroom goals! I scrolled back for a double take at those – I love both the room and what you captured.

    Gorgeous photos, as always.

    And thank YOU, again, for helping work to remove a stigma as you’ve done in the past when talking about dealing with mental illness. You’re work is an inspiration, but more importantly YOU are an inspiration!

  2. I read this and had to go read their blogs and wow I love these two brave and beautiful souls and dang can they write !
    Happy you shared – they are inspiring in so many ways.

  3. I stumbled upon this after a photographer friend of mine liked your facebook post about it, and I am so, so glad I did. These photos are gorgeous and truly showcase the love this family has for each other, and the love and respect that you have for your clients. Thank you so much for sharing.

  4. Wow! I love everything about this post! Such a beautiful and brave couple! Beautiful, beautiful children! I LOVE the dog curving around the baby! I love the shoes on the wrong feet! and all the HAIR! Wonderful, inspiring post Tara!

  5. Tara, I’ve always been in awe of your work, but this is next level. Thank you for this. Photography as an insight to a world different than our own is crucial, and you always seem to capture the pure essence of each experience. I can’t wait until you share the story about your brother. ❤️

  6. Oh, these, beautiful, beautiful souls, full of love. THANK you for sharing and thank you to this family for giving these children a LOVING home where they are being taught the most important part of life – acceptance, love and affection.

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