We are all out celebrating my brother’s birthday, and Spencer and Alisha are sitting across the table from us. Alisha gets up to get a drink of water, and Spencer leans in and quietly asks me, “Are you busy in May?” I narrow my eyes at him and ask, “WHY.” Scratching his beard, smiling, he whispers, “I might need some photos.”
I squealed because I immediately caught what he was throwing down and plans were put into place.
Then this happened, we all laughed and cried through a little photo shoot. The most fun ever to be there for this. Then I left them to meet both of our families at his Mom’s house. While we all sat around, his mom told a cute story about Spencer and asked everyone to share stories about the newly engaged couple. I racked my brain for the perfect story, and couldn’t come up with one I thought was good enough to share. Also, social anxiety. When there was a lull I jokingly said something like, “Alisha was kind of a brat.” And everyone giggled but I immediately felt bad for saying it. For teasing her instead of saying something heartfelt.
What I should have said was that I was only 12 when she was born but that I became her second mother and she was my first daughter. That I fell so hard for her, so, so fast. That she followed me around everywhere and loved hanging out in my room when I was a teenager and she was a toddler. How we used to jump on my bed and dance to music. How I loved getting her dressed. How she was a little bit of a brat but that she had the funniest little ponytail that sprouted from the top of her head like a whale spout and the sweetest dimples that came out when she smiled at me mischeviously. And that as we have both grown up and become who we are, I am so glad our relationship grew from “daughter” and sister, to fashion icon, peer, and friend.
I am so happy for you, Alisha. My baby sister.
Spencer, I’m so excited to have you in our family. We are slightly sappy and emotional, welcome. xo
PS – There is a slideshow sharing the entire proposal “story”, with the most beautiful perfect song that Alisha picked out. If you’d like to see it, click here.