breathing room

Marie Tere - Breathe, you are more than amazing and do so much. I'm in awe of you! Please breathe all you need to :)

kristen howerton - I don't know you, but I know exactly where you are right now. I can completely related to the feelings of barely surviving and needing to step away for a time. Good for you for making that boundary. Here's to feeling more alive . . . this ole' internet will be here when you get back. :)

Rachael may - Oh the joys of the Internet. I actually finally get what you were saying a few months back about the Internet. I sidn't see it then but i'm starting to now. Go and just be. Just please remember nobody's life is what it seems, sometimes even our own.

Megan Hammond - Perfectly, wonderfully said. You'd be surprised how many of us that you think are magically holding it altogether, really aren't doing that good a job after all... Power to you Tara. I will be taking something from your words for myself. Take care.

Lara - Thank you for saying everything I've been feeling lately. You are inspiring, chickadee!

Mimi - Tara, I seriously could have written this post. In fact I wanted to, but I can't seem to find it in me to lay it all out there like you can. (and that's a compliment) I think any mom can relate to how you're feeling. But especially for us photographers, who have such a hectic Fall, then the holidays and by January, we are ready for a vacation! I just looked back and felt like I don't remember the last few months of 2011... Except that i was running at full-speed. And I made no time for me. I get it. And totally understand why you need to pull away and give yourself some breathing room. You'll feel so much better. Although I will miss your blog posts!

sarah - maybe you should do this every january? it could be your "get my life back" month. we'll be here when you get back.

sarah - ps. can't WAIT to see your new branding!

corinne delis - Ok you are freaking me out because it is like I wrote this, every single word could be mine. I have taken so little pics of my own family that it is rediculous. 2012 for me is trying to create a balance between everyday life, my photography work and some me time with my friends(it is a wonder they still want to be my friend as i hardly ever talk to them or see them). Here is to you and me, we can do this!! Corinnexxx PS: I can't wait to see your new website!(I just finished mine)

amamda - Do you know how many of us look at your gorgeous home and wish it looked half as amazing/unique/creative? You are running so much because you do so much, you are a very inspirational real woman.

Alice - Take the time you need. I will wait til you come back and get inspired by you. Don't forget that you are an inspiration : i love your work, i love what you share about your family, you seem like a fun family to be around,... When i grow up i want to be a photographer like you ! You are one of the first photographer i ran into on the internet and the one i stuck around that long ! Your blog is one i check almost everyday ! And i agree with what rachael said : nobody's life is what it seems ! Don't compare yourself to others, just be you ;-)

Susan - Hear ya, sister. I'm a lot older than you, so have a little more of that "been there" attitude. Remember: people tend to share their "highlights" reel (especially in social networking); nobody's life is that perfect (back to the old "if it seems too good to be true, it probably is"); when you look back at the end of your life, will you ever care that your walls were sage green or your branding was older than you wanted it to be? Never.

JenR - I hear you Tara! There's nothing more precious than spending time with family and we are all guilty of getting caught up in the whirlwind that is called life :( Take all the time you need honey and may 2012 bring you much peace and joy xoxo

Briohny - Rest well. Be well. We will be here when you return. Don't fear.

Jann - "Everyone" doesn't do it.. Everyone feels those same feelings that you do.. You were brave enough to listen to your inner voice that told you to slow down and breath.. That is strength.. blessings .. Jan

Melonie Madison - Hi Tara. I see that Susan already touched upon what I wanted to say but I saw this quote on Pinterest the other day and instantly thought of it when I read your post...so here goes....The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel. I so believe this to be true. Go easy on yourself. You are amazing!

tiara - Not that you need to hear this but, please know all women get to this point at some point. I'm so proud of you for addressing that voice that is telling you to slow down...see you when you are ready.

Jill scripps - hi tara. i just wanted to share a couple of quotes with you that i've really loved during times that i felt similar to how you're feeling now. xx jill If you live the life you love, you will receive shelter and blessings. Sometimes the great famine of blessings in and around us derives from the fact that we are not living the life we love; rather, we are living the life that is expected of us. We have fallen out of rhythm with the secret signature and light of our own nature. John O'Donohue If you feel demoralized and exhausted, it is best, for the sake of everyone, to withdraw and restore yourself. The point is to have a long-term perspective. Author Unknown

Jude - I just hope it encourages you that, in my opinion, NO ONE has it together. If I have a week where I am gettin' all crafty with my kids, the laundry piles up. If I am caught up on photos, I didn't write thank you notes. If I made great meals, I didn't exercise. That is the problem with blogs and "crapbook." (aka Facebook) We only see the BEST, the winning moments. I realized even I am guilty of it, and that does a huge disservice to other women. I don't need to air my dirty laundry, but its ok to let others know you have dirty socks... ya' know? (I don't think my blog is as guilty as my social media.) Hang in there... you are not alone! :)

Kim K - I feel like I could have written this. Take the time. You deserve it. I will try and do the same. ;)

Melanie - I read a quote recently that said...when you compare your life to others you are comparing the entirety of yours to the highlight reel of theirs. So true. You are not alone out there. Most days I feel it is completely impossible to work out and lose these 50 lbs of baby weight, fix healthy meals, stay in budget, please my clients, be nice to my husband, keep up with the house, and be a good Mom to my kid. Never mind time for myself.... to explore new avenues of work, to breathe, to take a walk, to color my hair. All this to say... We get it. Take all the time you need.. and know that you are justified to do it. Here's to dropping the crap and finding some JOY this year!

Kristin - um, I wanna auto feed for my iPhone photos. How? Off to research.

sydnee - These words resonate with me more than anything - although we aren't in the same life stage (me? single, no kids, working boring day job etc), these things still happen. We go and go and go until our bodies tell us to slow down... I'll be taking a break from all of this right along with you, Tara. Thank you for your honesty, your willingness to be vulnerable and I'll be sending positive, healthy vibes your way during this brand new 2012 :) xoxo.

Cathy - Oh mama. You know I loves you. You know, you know, you know.

lisa - you are not alone....your words could have come right from my mouth. i look at you as someone with it ALL together, making memories, taking those cherished amazing photos,your home decorated JUST like I would LOVE mine to be, your creativeness beyond anything like i have seen. take the time you need, everything will be ok. breathe.... like someone else said, we will be here when you get back.

Moira - Well said. Selfishly I am so glad that I'm not the only one. I'm impressed that you are able to be brave and step back from it all for a bit.

Whitney Hardie - I've always thought you were superwoman. The same way you've been feeling about everyone else's life is the way I've always thought yours must be. It's good to know, that truly - no one can do it all. It's all an illusion. The Internet has fooled us all into thinking that everyone else has it together and we are the ones falling behind. There is a time and season for everything in life. Sometimes we're successful with work, sometimes we're learning new skills, sometimes we're making our homes what we dream they should be. Simply CANNOT be doing it all at the same time. It's good to shift now and then - to do what feels right at whatever time it feels right to be doing it. Have a wonderful break - I hope it is truly restorative..

Mary - Breathe....just breathe....this is the year for you - your family will be better for it. Enjoy being you and love your family. It's ok to say no for your sanity and your families happiness :)

Judy in huntsville [al] - You know from past comments that I am an empty nester - and from this perspective let me say that think what you're feeling is SO THE NORM for a working mom with a family - there were times [weeks] when we felt we were going through the motions - here's some ideas that helped us during those years - hubs and i made an effort to eat lunch together weekly to discuss life - dreams - and yes, the calendar [may not be doable for y'all if there's a long commute, but you might could do with phone time] and we took short [never more than two hours away] little weekend trips [we're campers, but hoteled it some too] every month to six weeks as a family to JUST BE, and finally - the crockpot can be a good friend - and also the cookbook - Desperation Dinners [30 minute meals] - LOVE IT still... hang in there - take all the time you need for YOU - and know that we all know you and your family must come first!

kirsten - Good for you!! I decided long ago that I will only post while inspired...otherwise I just continually feel this.unending pressure which makes me hate it. It's supposed to be a place to release creative bursts, not suffocate!

jesszwo - Oh sweet Tara....you are not alone. No one has their shit together, even it appears that way in cyberland. It's a matter of keeping the madness contained enough not to hyperventilate...or at least that's what I tell myself. I've been battling depression lately, had a fall season that kicked me flat on my ass, and I'm so sick of feeling like "I HAVE TO" blog. I seem to forget sometime that there are no "rules" I must adhere to with owning a business. I can make the call. Therefore I decided to reclaim my life for the time-being, like yourself...although I have yet to share it on the blog just yet. Just know you are not alone, dear friend.

Gail - Oh Tara, take all the time you need. Like you, I am on the mend from a HORRIBLE bout of being sick. Worst I've felt in years. Forced me to just stop everything and be...well, sick. Get to feeling better, love!!

Mindy - I'm right there with you... it seems that I'll never catch up, never stop running. I'm glad you're taking the time to slow down!

lyndsay stradtner - I saw something on pinterest the other day to the effect that we should compare our realities to everyone elses highlight reels. We all struggle, some more privately than others. We went from eating out 5 nights a week to whole nutrition, gluten free, dairy free, organic eating and it was hard. But so worth it. Sometimes I miss the convenience of our old eating but NOT how we felt. We feel amazing now, so worth the effort. Buy a juicer, it will fill in the gaps as you make changes and you'll feel so much better after just the first day. Watching the documentary fat sick and nearly dead can be a great motivator for juicing. One step, one choice at a time. We are about to tackle homeschooling and I'm scared out of my mind. One day at a time....

maggie - Have you ever read "The Artist's Way" by Julia Cameron? It is fantastically inspiring and life saving. I highly recommend it for anyone looking to reconnect with their artist self :)

Katie - I can so relate to where you are at. As a busy homeschooling mother of two that was doing 15 weddings a year I was knocked flat on my back with morning sickness with baby #3. I had weeks to think as I was laying in my bed sick and I knew things couldn't go on like that with another little one on the way. I didn't want to miss a moment of my new baby because I was busy designing albums and processing pictures. I ended up taking a two year maternity leave from weddings and have been figuring out how to simplify. The baby is now two and I feel like I can get back in the game without sacrificing time with my kids with the help of outsourcing everything I can. Makes me happy at home but still gives me time to go out and do what I love which is photograph others. Still learning balance but I am learning the key word to that is simplify! Good luck in your hunt for balance!

Molly W. - Oh Tara I am so sorry you've been sick! I totally hear you, I don't know how everyone else does it either! What I do know is I only have 1 kid and you have 4 so, don't be too hard on yourself! You have a very full plate. Life is busy, having young children is really busy. Enjoy this time of refreshing, can't wait until you're back!! xo

wendy - I'm so proud of you for taking this time! I'm in the same space—too much on my hips, in my house, in my life, and in my head.

amy l - my wise and kind therapist mom always told us never to compare our outsides to other people's insides. it was a mantra in our house. she was right. as a photographer and as a person, you seem to write your own songs, do you own dances, and fill your plate up to the brim with so much realness and substance. stop looking, and do you thing, and may it bring you peace in the process. i think you have what so many of the perfectionist overachievers want. and i think so many people have more help than they are letting on. use your time to take care of the self that makes great art out of her life xo

Visty - I get you. I don't want to be a faded tintype of myself, and yet that's how I feel lately. One dimensional and colorless. But I know the picture came from somewhere real, and I know I can get back there again. Love to you.

laurie eller - tara, i'm so happy for you. take a break. leave it all behind. the internet and it's people will be here when you return. until then, take care of yourself and do something crazy. :) -laurie

teresa b - I know exactly how you feel. You can't get this time back..the world doesn't stop spinning..I wish you well and enjoy the time for you and your family. I'll miss you!!XOXOXO

kati - oh shit, tara, how do you always write what on my own mind? i was just an hour ago, sitting in the middle of my epically messy playroom trying to put things back together, pitying myself for how i still haven't even gotten our house back together after christmas, thinking of how i don't even know how it will ever be back together again, thinking of the billions of things other mothers seem to be doing that i am most definitely NOT doing, thinking of bills on my back, EVERYTHING that is burying me and then i read this and i know that at least i am not alone... that there is another mom out there (who is actually a really awesome mom, person, photographer, ETC) who is thinking something similar. can't wait to see your new branding and see you in my google reader again when you've caught your breath! xoxo

margie - January is going to be so good to you! I hope you experience it in slow mo. Xoxox

nichole - good to know it isn't just me. thanks for being real.

Liz - Good for you for taking a break & refocusing your talents & energy where they are the most important. I hope you can find the peace & true joy that comes from living fully. Your words are so inspiring & have me reevaluating how I'm spending my own time. Thanks for sharing, & I'll see you around Instagram. :)

shelly - Tara, The only person you need to be is you. Just BE. You. Do YOU. Don't worry about everyone else and the appearance of "making it." Just focus on being Tara. Being in the moment. No matter who it looks or doesn't look. Just take a deep breath, and be. Love you! Shelly

Deirdre - And I was beating myself up thinking, how do people do all this AND work full-time? I love January, just because it makes us stop and think and re-evaluate. But I really came back to comment because I gotta say---the iphone photo that Jeff took of you in your favorite scarf: AWESOME PHOTO!

Shanna - Take your time. We'll be here when you get back.

Yolanda - Go. Come back when you know it's time. We'll be here. And we're there for you in silence, while you move toward becoming more of You.

Michelle L. - Just so you know, darling. I don't know how everyone else does it either. And I made the huge mistake of booking a lot of sessions this January. I am FURIOUS at myself for being so busy, so worn, so tired. My children deserve better. Much love to you.

Kim H. - I love it, and I feel the same way. I look at you and always think wow she is amazing and has it all together. It's nice to hear the truth that you are human, and guess what everyone else feels the same way, so you go girl. I hope you get it all done and feel a weight lifted.

Reb - Guess what? No one else "does it" either - it's just all smoke and mirrors. And as someone with an 11 year old with special needs, I know how much extra time and emotional energy it takes to parent a special needs kid. Be kind to yourself - you have so much going on and handle it all better then you give yourself credit for. On a slightly different note, my family moved about 6 months ago and it's been lovely having a fresh start and time to breathe. I spent a few months mourning the loss of clients and a thriving business, but once I was able to let go (which was so scary) and embrace the opportunity to come up with a new game plan, I've been so much happier. I'm working less, and breathing more. It's been a wonderful, lovely thing for me and my family. Hang in there, trust yourself, and breathe. Clarity will come and you'll know what changes you need to make.

Stephanie C. - feel better and above all, don't beat yourself up. I think the ones who really do it all are few and far between. Be yourself, be the best Tara, wife and mom you can be. The rest is incidental.

Sara - I found you through your images. I've kept following you because you your ablitly to be real. I've come out of lurking to leave my first comment because of this post. It hit home. Take your time. Heal, love and most importantly, laugh.

Ali - After a busy summer/fall/winter, all I wanted to do was chillax at home with my kids while they were home from school. But "everyone else" seemed to be updating their blogs with new sessions and witty festive good wishes, posting photos of their picture-perfect holiday goings on. I kept reminding myself that your blog was quiet, and that it was OK for me to be quiet too. Thank you for your continual inspiration and reminders that it's OK to be REAL. xx

Sarie - You are amazing. And beautiful. And you're one of the "have it all together" people that I always look up to. Keep being you. (Love that pic of you. Chic and smart.)

Lindsay - good god yes. also a mom of a large family & photographer... all i kept thinking by nov/dec was "i want less". i've written across my fridge - "Let go of Excess - excess stuff, excess weight, excess debt". http://zenhabits.net/ has been so good for me, maybe you'd like it. and i've been eating up two books, The Joy of Less (jay) and From Seed to Skillet (Williams).

jane - I love how Jude said it. Tara sounds like you feel like the rest of us out here in the real world. I hate to say it because I feel selfish, but I wish you would keep posting through this stage. I would love to hear how you deal with this as I too am having these same thoughts.

cherie - with you. oh so VERY with you. love you!!

emily ruth - please consider letting us in on what you're doing & how you are figuring it out... i'm going out on a limb but i think that there are way more people who are feeling like you are than who are doing everything right & beautifully... the reason i read your blog is to get a nice sweet dose of real...you make me feel like i'm okay... & i love hearing your thoughts on the hard stuff as well as the wonderful... i understand that you need a break & i say 'take it lady!' but please remember us back here... we love you :)

candy - ;) My best wishes for you. Seriously!! Listening to some Bob Marley may help too :)

angelica - good for you. I just wrote a little blog along the same lines (i should either learn to say no or join a circus) ... I guess the grass is always greener somewhere else, but attaching it so you can get a laugh. enjoy your rest. http://onmotherhoodandsanity.blogspot.com/2011/12/day-19-i-should-either-learn-to-say-no.html

Melissa - Just want you to know that I could have written this post . . . and truth is that 90% of your readers could have too. Give yourself a break. You truly are perfectly imperfect just the way you are supposed to be- and we all love you for it.

Mandi - How come I love you, Tara? I love the realness of you. Take a big break. We'll be here when you're ready.

Kathleen - oh my goodness Tara. I so get it. I ran myself ragged between October and December. Not the way I want to choose to live my life. I'm trying to figure out how to make the changes that we need and at least some of the changes that I crave. So much of it is about wanting more TIME to do this and that in my life and less time spent working. Sigh. Change takes courage. I'm still trying to figure it out. But I'm sending out some vibes to us all! My husband tells me that 2012 is the YEAR of MANIFESTATION! 2011 was a year of chaos and turbulence but 2012 is the year of manifestation :) So I'm wishing for good health for you Tara, for happiness, for time to breathe, for peace, for all that you wish for Tara. xo~

jessica o'brien | jessohbee - you just always say it how we feel it, don't you? i'm childless, with just scott & i right now, but our small business has sure felt like a small child or two for the past 3 years. i hear ya. what i'll be dreaming for you: a girlfriend to come over, gut your entire closet and cabinets, help you clean & reorganize, then cook your family dinner while you take a long bath upstairs and then you two finish a bottle of wine on the couch. voila! ;)

Jen Sherrick - You just took the words right out of my mouth..... well said. I am on the healthy train now though.... let's hope I can stay motivated when the fall season hits and clients are a callin' ! Best of luck to you!

amanda onstott - totally feel like you were writing exactly what i'm feeling. also taking time to get things together...tired of running ragged the past few months and ready to refocus on what is truly important. xo

Edith - Well said, I feel the same way. And have taken a break from my (very small) blog too, as I need to focus on myself and on dealing with some issues that led to me burning out several months ago. Have a great month and don't hesitate to extend your 'me-time' to february. And please don't believe that people "can do it all", I have never met such a person in real life. :-)

Visty - The tree in this picture is reaching to hug you.

melissa - Oh dear.. YOU do what needs to be done. I think if YOU go back into your iPhone photo dump you will realize one thing. YOUR LIFE IS FULL and IT IS BEAUTIFUL. I think you are amazing, and when one is sick it feels like the walls cave in. That is understandable. Just take it day to day and remember YOU ARE PERFECT RIGHT WHERE YOU ARE.

Pam-Tara's mom - I LOVE you are taking time for YOU......Can be the hardest thing to do, time for you. I wonder why that is?? But in the long run,(and the process does seems long) is when you are at best with the world and the inner humming in your soul.it feels so good when we capture it. And we let go of it just as easy because its not always easy....Human nature sucks sometimes! But in the moment we get a handle on it it sure feels right. Enjoy the journey of a new beginning. and in the meantime " I don't want to forget a thing" says it all.Time to stop and smell the roses is time enough well spent..... Here's to 2012.Just be, Just breathe....

em - i might just copy and paste this onto my blog! i love you, and your sage green walls. don't take the bags to goodwill until i have rummaged through them!! i can't wait to smother you in kisses. xxx

Nikki - I totally know what this feels like. I just had a slight nervous breakdown on my birthday this week when I realized that time is literally FLYING by and I am yet another year older with out accomplishing the many many things on my things I want to do list. I've lived an hour and a half from the mountains for 6 years now and every year I say "I'm totally going to learn how to snowboard this year" and yet again here I am snowboard less. That's one example of about 1000 possible examples! YIKES! life is hard!

elizabeth - You are not alone (clearly, but one more voice chiming in). I ran so hard in December (and really, the months preceding it) that I could feel myself running down, getting sick... and ended up very sick in urgent care on Dec 23. Still not back to full health. Still trying to figure out how to do things differently so I can do what I want to do/need to do and not push myself to illness. Sigh. But it's good to know that everyone struggles with this kind of thing!

Sara S - I feel exactly the same way! I get overwhelmed with all there is to do and I shut down and do nothing which only perpetuates the problem. If you find any tips on doing it all, please share them when you come back to us!

Ceresa Caudill - yes. yes. yes. enjoy this time!!

bentley - amen sista. i think we all feel the same at the end of the year. i haven't been to a doctor in over a year for any of my check ups, if that makes you feel any better. and i to took very little photos of my boys this year. just remember, you have 4 children when most have less and you have a very successful business, more successful than most. don't beat yourself up. take time for yourself. breathe. i can't wait to hear all about it. we'll all be here waiting. love you.

Kari - I see that we are in the same boat. This is me blowing kisses from the other end of the canoe. Love you.

Jessica Cudzilo - Thank you for always making me feel normal.

Allison G. - You are not alone, and if you figure out how to do all that stuff please share. i am feeling very much the same and I would love to find a way to get where everyone else seems to be. hope you find your way....shine a light when you get there.

Toni - *hugs* xo

Crafty Mom - I don't think anyone really has it all together. Like you said everyone else is *busting their butts!*. I think the smart ones, are the ones like you, who realize we can't do it all, and if we try to do it all, then ultimately, something or someone suffers. I'm sorry it took a bout of illness to bring this clarity, but it's clarity worth realizing! I love reading your blog and your shots are so inspiring. Take all the time you need and focus on what matters most!

Shelby - I love your blog. I think you are amazing. I'm going through the same struggles....I wish you luck on you mission. I will be working on mine as well.

Rebekah Brummel - SAME THING HAPPENED TO ME. . . Jan. 1 SICKER THAN A DOG. . . all year running with my 4 kids, up late editing, just had a FREAK OUT moment to my husband that I never CATCH UP and keep getting unhealthier and sleeping less and less. Preach it sister, I'm on that same page

elizabeth pellette - good for you... love ya girl

Melissa M. - January is my catch up on life and breathe break also!

Stephanie - Sometimes I come here, and I feel like I am reading something you wrote about me. Jeez. Awesome.

Tina - interesting because I look at you as one of those persons who does it all yet you keep it so real. it's good that you're taking a breather. we all need it. and i think with you getting sick is probably your bodys way of telling you to slow down. hope you get the break that you need. will miss reading your blog though. xoxo

Life in Eden {amy} - I was thinking of you and how I admire so much how you keep it real. It means a lot to me. And here you are again, doing it again. It IS overwhelming sometimes, the running and running and never really doing. Hope your break is wonderfully fulfilling and I certainly will be waiting to see you again!

Jenika [Psychology for Photographers] - Thanks you for this post. I hope you have a restful and productive 'sabbatical'. Thank you for being a good example of taking care of yourself and hitting the pause button when necessary. We'll be here when you are ready to come back, enjoying your blog and the pieces of your heart you share with us as always. Until then!

trish haldin - …Way to be like the rest of us Tara :-) Lovin' you more and more...

Ralu - I know exactly how you feel. Just know that we all love you here and I for one will be waiting patiently for your return and even more of the amazing bits of life you capture with your camera and words. You truly are an inspiration to me and this space is where I come to when I need to remember what is most important in life--passion and generosity. :)

Becky Thomas - again, I am in the same place. . .good for you, Tara, take care of yourself!

Anne B - Would you look at that! This will be the 95th comment that screams "Testify, Sister!" We all get you. Seriously... enough is enough. I used to have a sign in my kitchen that read "Simplify your life, and commit to what remains." This year, I'm not only going to find that sign... I'm going to live it. I know you're doing the same, Tara. God Bless!

Sharon - good for you. take that time. no one does it all they may just know how to look like they do. we had a lot of family in for Christmas and it just reaffirmed to me that i only have this time with my kids once and it is right to be immersed in it fully and to remain alive artistically over any financial goals.

Ashley - Two words: Dukan Diet. I feel like I'm on the other side of this post and a lot of it had to do with making time for myself and feeling better about me. I started this strict, black/white diet and lost lbs, QUICK! Everything else started getting easier, feeling happier, easier to shoot, I was getting down on the ground quicker, getting up and chasing the kids faster. I don't know, I feel like I sound like a commercial. But I just wanted to give you an idea that you could do in the time constraints you have to make a difference in yourself if you wanted. I felt empowered and in control of my body again, I love to see results and work paying off. Anyway, hope this might help? Good luck in whatever thinking, breathing, hugging and resting you need to do in 2012. We'll all be here when you get back :)

patty - GOOD FOR YOU! ... take the time for yourself and your family... B*R*E*A*T*H*E... we will always "wait" for you, so take all the time YOU need... happy . healthy . breatheable . new year! xoxo... -p

Kimb - You go girl... As a much older and an already been there done that, I can tell you so much of what you are experiencing comes with just being a involved person/parent who cares and tries and it gets better and you do catch up in some areas and in others you realize it really doesn't matter if you are ever "caught up" Peace and comfort.... Love your iphone blog.. I am so getting an iphone now!

laura h. - xo

Jen - good.for.you. :)

ali - my sentiments exactly. you are not alone, not one little tiny bit. i related to every word and every emotion in this post and am doing the same thing myself actually and i am loving it. my new years resolution was to set all of these boundaries so that i don't feel over-booked and over-worked and then ultimately sad that i feel i missed so much of my own family. we get these lull times as photographers and then do it to ourselves again it seems. i am making it my mission to do it differently this year so that i don't want to hide under a rock for a couple months just to be able to take deep breaths again. oh, how i feel you. i hope you're enjoying the silence. :)

jen - this. yes. so this. this is exactly how i feel as of late ... overwhelmed. overworked. over it. my grandmother passed away over our winter break. it was weeks of sitting with her and ... waiting. (doesn't that sound awful?) but it was. and then she passed and it was busy with all of the planning and the funerals and the emotion. and then we emerged on the other side ... and i saw things on my calendar that were no longer important. and i spent a few hours emailing and telling people that those things just weren't going to be happening. and why. pretty much because i'm on the upside down part of the emotional rollercoaster. and i'm not feeling the least bit guilty. hugs, friend (that pretty much has no idea who i am.) you are so doing the right thing for you and your family. and how amazing is that?

Cheryla Molenaar - You go girl! That's what 2012 is all about - enjoy life, enjoy your life and make the best out of it - your best. Grow and GO!

Melinda Downing - Boy, I hear you.... I did one thing a few months ago that has changed my life in SO many ways. I gave up sugar. 100%. No more pepsi, no pie at Thanksgiving, no sugar cookies at Christmas. nada. zip. I knew I'd feel better, and I knew I'd lose some weight, but I was just not prepared for such a HUGE change. I have more energy, feel balanced, leveled off, calmer, more centered. I now totally realize that I was living a fake sugar infested life and and I am feeling for the first time in my life what it feels like to be "me" without the sugar highs and lows. Give it a try. My only advice is no baby steps allowed. Dive in 100% for the full effect.

Marla - Wow! I came to this realization about a year ago. It was mainly work related. I just felt like it was running me instead of me running it. I took steps to make my job fit my life (like NO working on Sundays) and little by little things starting feeling more settled. I just started yoga and took a family vacation to Florida. I get where you are and can't wait until you get where you want to be. We should all be so honest and candid...maybe the world wouldn't seem so lonely or fake! Best-Marla

shelleymay - i need to share this post on my blog...you said what is on my mind, my heart, and what is making it so hard to breathe right now, i am literally having chest pains. i really hope to meet you one day. you're an astounding woman, and don't let anyone tell you different.

Taryn - Thank you for sharing!! I feel the exact same way and just won't say it. Enjoy your time!! Hugs from SF.

Lynn - Hi - Boy am i glad i just read your blog! Whew - one word....DITTO. Although not as experienced & fabulous as your work - This season was crazy - which was great - but along with my daughters Cheer Season (where we won #1 in the Nation in Orlando Fl) I don't want this new business venture to spoil my love of taking photographs. A much needed break is needed by all. I have already started "digging out" and cleaning closets. There are bags (for the Vietnam Vets) of HOPE in my garage waiting to be picked up and hoping they pick someone else up! I had big plans of taking some workshops to hone my craft and feel more comfortable about what i have set out to do; but my family needs me more now and they are my first, second and third priority over anything else. I am a MOM first, the most important and most difficult job in the world! Im sure you are well surpassing what you really think you are falling short of! Happy & Healthy 2012 to you and your precious family! ☺ Lynn Ajello

Catherine V - Kicking off 2012 with some honesty ... is a great way to start off your year. Go for it! I know we all look forward to seeing you again when you're ready.

Stacie Enriquez - Good for You, Tara . . . for the record: I have way less responsibilities than you and I can barely keep up, those that "look" like they do are either good at "looking" like it or are super-human. Take a Breath, Girl, take a nice Loooooooooooooooooong Breath. PS: I think the picture (most recent) of you is Adorable <3

monica b - Oh Tara...you just spoke directly to my soul. Breathing. Catching a breath. Yes. I find myself in the same position. I am doing my best to be intentional about every day. Some days are great, and others not so much. But I am learning to forgive myself for the bad ones (bad decisions) and move.on. Here's to a wonderful new year!

Erin Oveis Brant - I feel you on all points. Sending you lots of positive thoughts as you take some time and reclaim your life <3

jennifer - Yes! Yes! Yes! You are understood and not alone. Take care of yourself and all the best in the new year! :)

Ania - Hi Tara, I have to say that after reading your post, I simply wanted to give you a vacation...pronto! But being a complete stranger and knowing nothing of what its like to be in your shoes, I thought I should step back and just simply suggest visiting "zero waste home" blog... Simply put, until I came across that blog, I was going through life..."running" and thinking the same thoughts you are... Goodwill, goodwill, goodwill... ...and then it happened, I decided I was done with all of the expectations, dream projects, and time wasters. I hope and wish you the same...a balanced life filled with nothing but the things you love <3 Happy New YOU! Ania

Jana Foo - Oh, you took the words right out of my mouth. I dont know how everyone else is doing it either...and I find myself in a state of extreme exhaustion all. the. time. the running never stops but it never feels like the outcome of my efforts pales in comparison to the energy I put into it....so I am on a similar journey and you will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Jana Foo - oops what I meant was it feels like the outcome of my efforts pales in comparison to the energy put into it...

Angela Eyring - Damn! I feel that exact same way .... "just making it".... or as I recently told a friend that I'm getting through by the skin of my teeth. Hanging on by my fingernails. My husband tells me I'm a feather in the wind, going wherever the wind blows me. You know, I don't think everybody else has it together as much as you think. I think some people are just more honest than others. And some are better at asking for help when they need it, or saying no when they're overextended...stuff like that. Or maybe I'm fooling myself and someone is not sharing the secret of life with us. Let me know if you find out, lol!

Angela Eyring - Oh, how funny! Once I posted I noticed all the above comments and yay! We're not the only ones. May 2012 be our year to get a grip. Happy New Year to the Whitney Family from the Eyring Girls!

Marilyn - Hi Tara, HUGS to you and totally understand the need of hiatus.. I have done it myself and I am doing a period or enjoying myself immensely with the things I wanna do right now...which for the past 33 months, have been missing out when on an IT job. Before I embark on my next career in IT, I will thank God for the Grace & Favors to give me a wonderful unceasing fruitfulness 2012! Same to you! I wish you this and wish to see so much more of your inspirational photos of portraiture and life when you are back!

Noelle - I hear you loud and clear, sister. As a mom of three & a portrait photographer, I am right there with you. Hang in there.

lisamcg - Rest up, mama. You deserve it.

Tonya Poitevint - Tara...I don't know how you do it...time and time again..you speak and write what I'm thinking and feeling....TO A T!!! I too am going through these same thought processes and wonder how EVERYONE else does it? I think you have found your answer and given me mine....time to catch our breath! That's it....it's really simple...catch our breath and breathe again. Breathing in the new and breathing out that stagnant, energy draining lifestyle! Kuddos to you for being so forthright and honest and for making this stay at home mom who feels this way often, not feel so alone!!! Thank you, Tonya

tara Johnson - You have summed up my feelings exactly. Thanks for sharing it with us.

Nicole - Good for you for taking a step back and focus on your family. I think it's such a wonderful thing to kind of get a "slap in the face" to realize the important things that need more focus. Good luck Tara!

Liz - We will be here for you whenever you want to return. You have been very kind in sharing so much anyway. Enjoy your "You" time, you thoroughly deserve it!

Ingrid - I really admire and respect your choice to hit the *pause* button. I think we all can use that from time to time. =)

Fe Lumstaine (Australia) - Tara, you seem to give so much, it's time to take, if only a little. Stop running, stand there and just be. Hugs from the other side of the world <3

Katie Kaizer - Tara - I love your work and your blog. Much congrats to you for taking some time to catch your breath in 2012! I look forward to seeing your new work and wishing you all the best this year!

Kathy - Hi Tara I hear you on the home front.........your family is the most important thing and you should not be apologizing for taking the time out to focus on yourself and them. Just a quick question if you get around to reading this. I popped over to your little photos on "I don't want to forget a thing". Is that instagram? And if so, which frame did you use to get that look. email address is kathyaylward1@gmail.com Thanks and take care and enjoy your time living your life. Kathy

niki - Omg! stumbled across your blog,looking for ideas for my kids..as i have done exactly the same,i seem to have forgotton my kids.Im a student photographer studying an extended diploma.Its so hectic,i have 6 kids and im a single mum,its as though i never have time anymore for them and for all the ideas i have and assignments on top of that..not to mention the running of the house and pets i feel i have forgotton my kids latel.I to feel run down and on the brink of exhaustion..that is untill i found this blog...it jolted me back to reality the second i saw it.You are an amazing photographer,your images are simply beautiful.You have inspired me deeply and i thank you so very much for that.. I hope you feel better soon and spend some magical time with your family..as i know i am to after seeing this..thankyou..and please keep up your wonderful work..not just for your clients but also for fellow photographers with children whom understand how hard it really is. kindest regards niki

Dixie Dobbins - Wow Tara, I knew I would find a post here that described me in a way too, and sure enough I did! WOW Girl, I feel your pain. Let me offer you some advice (I am a grandma now so I can do this right?) Go to the Doc and get a B-12 shot. While you are there, get you and the whole family FLU SHOTS. Getting the flu will knock you out for 3 weeks, no joke. Get it this week! #2, You need some help getting all that stuff togetehr for Goodwill. Can you hire someone? Do you have friends who will help? Dont do this alone, seriously. #3, Do what I did and hire a housekeeper. I only have her come Every other week on Thrusday. Thats two days a month. I clean for 28 days, she cleans for two. I havent had to scrub a commode (we have 4) or a bathtub, or dust cobwebs in 2 years. I have a hispanic lady who is great, and brings me tamales or just her smile and in about 4 hours my house sparkles. She charges me $100. a day and its so worth it. She stips the beds too and washes sheets, etc. Its worth every penny! (and dont help her, go to the salon, or get a massage or something but enjoy that luxury.) #4 a class once a week on spinning, yoga,meditate or just anything to be kind to your body will make you feel good, A place that is away from the house, like a gym or spa. One day a week isnt too much to ask. I find if i Have one day a week, where I do something for me, Im just a happier, wife, mom and friend. I mean, we take better care of our cars or our pets than we do ourselves. One day a week, even if its only 1 hour isnt too much to ask is it? #5 Read your bible or have quiet time to strech your spirituality. Whatever works for you, do it. #6 date night with the hubbs, no LESS THAN 1 night a month. Ideally 2 times a month, but MINIMUM one night a month. We've even gotten a nice hotel room in TOWN before just to escape. Babysitter and Date night. Put these things on your calendar. If I take care of my body, my marriage, my house, and my spirituality IM GOOD TO GO. Oh I almost forgot FOOD. I like to cook lots of meals on Sunday and freeze them. I make a lean Lasagna, Chicken and stuffing, Cassaroles, etc. and freeze them so during the week I just grab and microwave or heat. Theres a show on cable called "FIxing Dinner" and its the easiest recipes. Or find her online Sandy Richard. Best of luck to you. Its not about being perfect every day, its about being really productive ONE DAY A WEEK, that will keep you sane. CHEERS DAHLING.

Yolanda S - Good for you! It's so difficult sometimes to admit that we need to take time for ourselves. Will be thinking of you and wishing you and your family all the best while you take the time to renew and enjoy!

Melody - My word for 2012 is intentional...with God, myself, my family/friends and business (in that order). I've been under the same convictions and have come to grips with the fact that life is far too short. Best wishes to you in the coming year.

Kerrie - Hi Tara, I just read this post of yours as I am too taking a hiatus and only thought of catching up with some of favorite photogs and look at some of my favorite blogs again. I too feel like I'm running everywhere and look in awe at others who 'appear' to have it all together. I guess I just wanted to say is I can relate, I have put my camera away for almost 6 months now and trying to find away to reignite that fire and passion I had for photography. But unfortunately the busy-ness of everyday life something had to give. I guess what I wanted to reach out and say is - I can completely relate and your not alone in those feelings. I hope your finding some air. Kerrie.

Anna LaBenz - This is exactly what I am talking about Tara. I am proud of you for taking care of you and your family. I look forward to seeing what a little time off will do for your creativity, life, and overall well being. I hope this time off is everything you needed it to be. xoxo

Chris - Thank you for this honesty. I hope you have been able to slow down this past month.

angela - tears just started happening as i read this. you are such a smart woman. be happy.

Blessed Life Photography - Abby Benedict - ...come back soon?

Cortney Smith - Hey I can't tell you how much I appreciate how real you are. I actually use to love photography and now I find myself dreading and almost anxious over sessions. I feel as though I am barely surviving at times. THE INTERNET IS MAKING ME CRAZY!!!! I use to like my work, but now all I do is compare it to all the other photogs out there.... AND AS FAR AS "LIKES" GO on facebook, I FEEL LIKE I AM IN FREAKING HIGHSCHOOL AGAIN, it sucks!!!! I just can't keep up with all of it. Ugh... I miss my kids and feel as though I will regret so much as they age. I love your blog on tumbler and it has encouraged me so much to take BACK MY LIFE!!! THANK YOU FOR YOUR WORK AND YOUR WORDS... They mean so much!

brooke - white linen - you amaze me. this is EXACTLY how i feel. thank you!!!

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